Maybe you are often at your peak, and know what you want. But some days, there’s just no fighting getting up on the wrong side of bed. Things are unpleasant, and things spiral out of control and you wonder what the heck actually created such a bad day all of a sudden!
Well, it’s not just coincidence that led you to spiral into a bad day. If you are really aware about the way you let your emotions run amok, you’ll find that it’s not just something that happens. So, why do your emotions run amok?
#1 – Lack of understanding about the emotion.
If you don’t undertand emotions, you will miss out the ability to pin down how exactly you feel. There might be days you feel “bad”. But what is that feeling called? Lethargy? Anxious? Anger? Sometimes, without knowing what you feel, you won’t really know what to do with it.
#2 – Not sure how to communicate that emotion.
If you don’t know how to communicate an emotion, you’ll spend lots of energy thinking, and sometimes, you’ll find yourself drained.
If you happen to be particularly introverted, this won’t help you much. Sometimes, speaking to someone can actually help you gain some perspective on the emotion you feel.
#3 – Keeping your emotions to yourself.
Often, you can decipher the feeling but you just don’t talk to the people around you. See, there are people who interact with you who will be puzzled about your experience. Without communicating to them what you are feeling, they won’t know what to do. Leave you alone? Support you with a hug? All of these are significant things to communicate to the significant people in your life. At least if you act strange, they will be able to explain why you act strange rather than attribute it to you not caring or being unreasonable!
#4 – Talking too much about the emotions – off the cuff.
On the extreme, some people communicate emotion too much and too widely.
In this case, it becomes important to understand that the more you talk about something, the more likely you are to revisit the emotions. Sure, you might get some insight, but just rattling off the emotion won’t help much. In fact, if you are speaking to someone who is unable to handle emotions either, you might both end up on a negative spiral.
There is a very simple solution to this from NLP. First, always pay attention as an observer. Your emotions tell you what you are experiencing and how it affects you, and you simply need to disassociate yourself and observe your reactions. Reflections then lead to greater insight. Second, always change your state by first “snapping” out of it. It may require you to jump around, go for a quick jog, or just shift your breathing. The physiology change can get you out of the “bad” feeling rather fast! Finally, remember to keep around you reminders that trigger off positive and powerful feelings in you.